What Do Women Hide From Their Husbands? Let’s Find Out [POLL]
Ladies, let's be honest. There are certain things that you hide from your significant other. We have all done it. But what is it exactly that your hiding? Let's find out.
When it comes to the top items that women hide from their partners, health issues are at the top of the list.
“Women will hide worrisome concerns from their spouse to protect their husband or decrease distress—especially if it feels major,” said psychologist Kristen Carpenter, PhD, Director of Women’s Behavioral Health at Ohio State’s Wexner Medical Center.
Another thing on the list of things women hide are fights, over kids, money, the relationship in general. Most women do not have an issue with going to counseling, but for the most part, they like to attend the sessions alone. According to Jodie Voth who is a relationship therapist in Canada
“Women hide therapy because it feels risky to involve him,” Voth said. “He now has equal opportunity to influence the fate of the relationship. It’s OK to do personal work in a given session, but he deserves a chance to be involved when it relates to him, too.”
Sexual Preferences makes the list of what women hide from their partners. According to Kristen Carpenter, PhD, Director of Women’s Behavioral Health at Ohio State’s Wexner Medical Center.
That’s largely in part, perhaps, because wives generally don’t want to tell their guys about between-the-sheets action they don’t like, Carpenter said. “It’s an emotionally-charged topic, and women are afraid they’ll hurt his feelings,” she added, “which is why I always suggest a conversation about sex outside the bedroom, bringing it up slowly, and telling him something you do like along with what you don’t.”
Personal Success can be difficult for some women to discuss. Kristen Carpenter explains that when it comes to women and success:
“They do not share successes enough,” Carpenter said. “They don’t want to feel there is a race between themselves and their spouse, and think discussing their successes interferes with the male provider role.”
Money and personal bank accounts round up our lists of things kept from significant others. But this could be a double edged sword according to therapist Tomanika Witherspoon:
“Women may keep secret bank accounts for different reasons, but I’ve found this is something they may have been taught by their mothers,” said Detroit-based clinical therapist Tomanika Witherspoon, LMSW. “For some, it’s a golden rule to always have a stash, just in case the relationship does not work.”
The biggest problem with hiding information about bank accounts and money is if the husband does happen to find out about it. It will give a sense of betrayal and or that there is something bigger or a larger secret right around the corner.